We at Superversive SF will soon be welcoming the lovely and talented Moira Greyland Peat among our members. For the moment, here is a guest post in which she gives us her unique perspective on #Milogate
I am the child of a gay father and a lesbian mother. As a result of their interests and their friends, I was exposed to the gay community from the time I was very small. I knew that there were many things that went on that straights would not understand, and still more that we were never to talk about.
Recently, Milo Yiannopoulos has gotten a lot of ink over speaking openly about the parts of the gay community that straights will not understand. We do not understand, for example, that where girls want relationships, boys NEED sex, and adult men can provide that for them. We also do not understand that sex, as early as possible, will get rid of hangups and make everyone happy.
One reason we straights don’t understand this stuff is because it is a load of horse manure.
And yes, I identify as straight myself, even though it was a great disappointment to my parents when I came out of the closet. My mother was eventually able to joke about it, where my father simply found it infuriating to have me anywhere near when he had a boy he was interested in over to the house.
In any case, Milo has simply spoken openly of what we all knew. Older gay guys like the younger ones, usually teens and barely teens, and my father even liked them younger than that. He used his scholarly treatise, “Greek Love,” (J. Z. Eglinton, 1962) to bolster his position.
The judge was less sympathetic than his friends, and threw away the key, and my father died in jail as a result of my 1989 police report.
For some time now, I have been saying that the center of the gay community is the initiation of younger people by older people. One example of why can be found in the most popular porn genre: father-son porn. My father was not alone in his crimes, and our house was populated with lots of older men who wanted younger men, although back then they were called “chicken,” not Twinks.
Milo has said openly what is done in secret: these relationships are very common, and usually the way a young men comes into the gay community is through a rape or another sexual experience which is forced on him. The boy then is in the position of admitting he was unmanned, admitting he was a victim, coping with prosecution and victim status, or shutting up and hoping it will go away. Worse, because bodies respond, the boy is in the appalling predicament of having not hated all the sensations. For many, the easiest conclusion is to decide one is really gay, rather than to decide one is a victim.
Often the victim part is not figured out for years.
The fact is that Milo is alive and breathing and wildly successful, and that is exceptional in itself. My father’s victims are all broken, and some are dead. I refuse to criticize Milo for talking openly about what is practiced in secret. He is an exceptional writer and humorist. If we are to be truly diverse, we allow all viewpoints, not simply those we believe in.
I, for one, am delighted to tolerate him. Can you?
Homosexuality and the Politics of Truth